Pastor Nixon Ng, our senior pastor in Victory Malate shared a brief but compelling word that confirmed something that has been in my heart these past few days.
Two Things About Parenting
1. Divine partnership
Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. (Psalm 127:1 ESV)
God knows that parenting is a huge task and so it is the Lord who builds a house and He has given us the grace and the privilege to labor with Him.
2. Divine perspective
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. (Psalm 127:3, 4 ESV)
It’s interesting that God used an arrow NOT a sword to describe parenting such that swords are used best when in the hands of a warrior but arrows only achieve their target when released from one’s hands.
This word confirmed in my heart the parenting principle that I uphold. Disciple and release. We only have our children for a short time and teaching them the ways of the Lord is the best investment we can have in terms of creating a Godly impact not only to them but to their generation and the next generations to come. My personal prayer is that at the age of 13, Judah will be able to make a wise Godly decision on his own, meaning out of his own devotion to God.
As a mom, I kind of cringe at the thought of releasing my child. But without it, he will NEVER reach his full potential. Even right now that Judah is learning to walk, I have to gradually release him into walking on his own. If I don’t, he will never learn and I will be the biggest hindrance to the dreams that His Father in heaven has for him. It means I will be cruel and selfish enough to keep him from the conquests, adventures and encounters that go with obeying His Maker. Haaay, hashtag notetoself…