What’s Really at Stake When We Get into a Relationship with a Non-Christian

Clearly, this blog is for Christians, Christ-followers, believers. It contains hard truth. My husband blogged about 3 Questions You Need to Ask before Entertaining a Non-Christian Suitor and it would be great if you read it as well.


Before anything else, let me submit to you that the Bible is crystal clear about this matter and 100% disapproves of it. When a Christian commits to this kind of relationship, several issues arise.

Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” Paul here sounds harsh don’t you think? But let’s examine why it was written as such, no sugarcoating, bold and intense.

Why is an unbeliever unequal with a believer? Because of their difference in belief, which means difference in:
1. Values
2. Direction

What is a yoke? A yoke is designed for a pair of oxen to share load as they move forward. If two people differ in values and direction, how do we expect them to move forward? If a relationship pulls you to a value different from your own values, priorities different from your priorities, and goal that is not your goal, what partnership is such? And if a person is not following Christ as you are, not discipled, in what ways do you expect can you drag the person towards following Christ? As a Christian, I was taught and I believe that the goal of relationships is Christ-likeness. Each should be propelling one another towards Christ.

So what’s really at stake when we get into a relationship with a non-Christian?
The answer is: our relationship with God.